You have to decide if you will be dancing to the tune of the band or a recording? This decision will also affect what song you choose. Every professional band will be able to play "Our Love is Here to Stay", "It Had to be You", and "Time after Time" are songs that every jazz band should be able to play for you. You have to let them know in advance what tempo will be comfortable for you to dance. If you have been practicing to a recording of your song, be sure to give a copy to your bandleader so that he/she understands your steps.

Are you confused and not sure if you should you take dance lessons to prepare for your first dance together? Though it is not compulsory that you should master the art of dancing, your wedding day should reflect something about you in all aspects. If dancing together is something that you've always wanted to do but never had the time or the nerve, now is a great opportunity. Remember that this will be something that the two of you can share forever. There will always be plenty of opportunities to enjoy your dancing skills- at a friend's wedding, a fancy function, even a nightclub.

Where should you take lessons? You should be able to find teachers who have experience with wedding couples at your local ballroom dance studio. Decide if you want to take private classes or you will be interested in joining group classes. Many studios will have wedding packages and you can customize it to your liking and wedding theme. There are many types of partner dancing, so make sure that your instructor specializes in working with wedding couples or the dance style that you have chosen. If you have trouble finding a teacher that you like, you may want to try learning to dance from a video. The advantage is that you can learn at any time, and in the privacy of your home. If either of you feel nervous about dancing, this may be the way to go. There are several videos that cater specifically to wedding couples and their special needs.

Plan and inform you band leader or DJ how you want your first dance to begin and end. Your band leader or DJ can call you out to the dance floor and announce your first dance. Tradition is that the father of the bride will eventually cut in and dance with his daughter, at which point the groom may ask the bride's mother to dance. Then the groom's father may dance with the bride, at which time the bride's father may take his wife from the groom. The groom may then ask his mother to dance. It will be interesting to see the groom dance with the maid of honor and the bride with the best man, while the in laws dance with each other. Finally the entire wedding party, and then the guests may join in the dancing. As the wedding couple you must decide before the ceremony which traditional order you would like to follow. Do not forget to inform the individuals that you want to participate, and instruct them as to when you would like them to come in and with whom you would like them to dance. Depending on how many people will eventually be dancing, you may have to select a separate song in addition to your special first dance song.

Your First Dance should be one of the many beautiful memories of your wedding day. By preparing in advance you will be able to relax and have fun with each other, enjoying the moment.